Why HSPs Need To Reclaim The Creative Process

 

Most people think the creative process is just about coming up with ideas. Our culture separates ideas from making things, but treats even the process of generating ideas as something to be manufactured. As a result, our relationship to our creativity is affected by our cultural model.

Manufacturing is not a natural HSP energy and can cause a feeling of disconnection in highly sensitive people who are more creative and holistic. One way highly sensitive people can embrace their natural energies and creativity is by reclaiming the creative process.

How Culture Can Affect The Creative Process

The Industrial Age brought with it a huge change in how things are made. Machines became the go-to resource for making the things we use in our lives.

At the time it was a great idea, because machines were able to produce in large quantities and therefore meet large unmet needs of the human population. The Industrial Age, through the combination of carbon energy sources and new engineering skills, was a dream come true as a way to make life finally livable.

There was a cost, however. We started delegating the making of things, and we humans became administrators, strategists and accumulators. We stopped making as individuals and lost the skills that go with that.

When we changed we also began to see creativity differently. Manufacturing became the dominant activity for us and we translated the manufacturing process into every aspect of human life. We manufactured goods, lifestyles, identities, legacies, memes and cultural myths, and, of course, ideas.

Ideas and the making of what an idea proposed became distinct realms governed by different people, systems  and authorities.

Creativity And The Creative Process Suffers

Creativity never dies – it is a natural and fundamental part of life. However, it has suffered under materialism. Conformity to materialistic ideals was an expectation of the age. How else do you pay for all those factories, buildings and other products?

Although our standard of living improved, to get there, creativity was discouraged in schools and elsewhere. It left creative people feeling starved for a place in the world. Art and art making were relegated to the sidelines and creative people treated as flakes. Serious people were materialistic achievers, not creatives.

Nothing and no one escape the age they live in and art was as affected by the materialistic age as were all other spheres of life. Art adapted in some ways. Art making became art production. Art adopted the language of the age and some artists even achieved stardom.

The Split

Nowadays we think of creativity as the manufacture of ideas. Creativity is just something else we produce like widgets. It is an activity when it needs to be a way of being.

When you learn about Ayurveda, the holistic health system, you discover that all aspects of nature are intelligent. Therefore, all aspects of nature are part of the ongoing creation we call life.

In the materialistic age, we have been dominated by the idea that the mind and brain are where intelligence resides. The rest of us is just plumbing. The reason this is important is because the “mind over matter” idea objectifies everything. There really is no creativity. There is only the manipulation of what exists.

Materialism, however, is not an accurate picture of the world. Whether your point of view is spiritual, creative or holistic healing, life and creativity are not just about what we see. The world is not divided into material and not material, mind, and matter, responsible people and creatives.

Why HSPs Need To Reclaim The Whole Creative Process

The current age has made life difficult for highly sensitive people for many reasons. One of those reasons is living with and trying to survive in a culture whose energy is inimical to them. The cultural model is a compartmentalized one, and HSPs are holistic people.

Embracing all aspects of the creative process: the idea, the process of making the idea real and releasing it to the world, means that you now have a way of engaging that your nature can support. You are no longer at odds with yourself in order to survive.

That is a great place for HSPs to be, because so often our being different is a barrier to our development and progress. Embracing the creative process puts your life back under your control.

It may feel strange but eventually it will feel great.

How The Path Of Creativity Can Help HSPs

I enjoy creativity but as someone who is basically an artiste in the broadest sense, I am often stopped in my tracks by my fear of making mistakes. My very roots seem to be dipped in this feeling, and I have often made myself small by refusing to give myself enough space to explore.

Even if you don’t consider yourself creative (maybe just the word “artiste” made you cringe), the fear of making mistakes probably stops you from living a full, artful life. It stops you from doing things expansively, trying something new, and feeling at home when you don’t do things right the first time around.

Creativity requires living larger. Many of us find our being shrinking in size as the shadow of this fear looms large.

Perfectionism And Shame Kill Creativity

Just like you, I am learning to let go of perfectionism and attempting to live in my creativity.  I am beginning to learn some things that I hope will seep right into me one day, just as deep as the fear had once gone.

What we think of as a mistake is a starting point: When we start off doing something, we are not very good. Or, maybe, we are talented but not as good as we ultimately want to be. Keeping things pristine and empty because we want to make only the best thing or the best decision leads us nowhere.

We all know this intellectually, but we don’t know it in our bones. What we do know almost physically is the intense reaction we have when we make a mistake.

Some old part of us comes calling. It says: “You can’t do anything right.” It says: “You are a mistake” even though you have just attempted something you don’t know very much about.

If you are at this point, you are coming face to face with a belief that you are uprooting. You are beginning to unfreeze. That’s hard work, and you deserve credit for even trying.

As I try to let go of my fear, I find myself face to face with my belief that if I don’t do things “correctly,” I am not good or lovable. There is shame involved in that belief.

What’s stopping us are unconscious fears that speak to our very human need for love and belonging. We can trace their origins back to the past. We can work at bringing them to light and changing them. It’s okay to go slow as you begin this process. It’s okay if you don’t make great progress right away.

You are attempting to plant your being in more fertile soil.

Embrace Play

“Childlike” things that energize us are useful things : All creative acts are playful and exploratory. They can be fun and silly, imaginative and inventive. That threatens the part of us that is attached to the idea of what an “adult” looks like. We forget that a real adult would be someone who gives their free child room to play. We forget that there is a difference between childish and child-like.

I have been struggling with this. As a writer, sometimes, words become less than living for me. It’s when I have spent too much time in my head with abstractions, with thoughts that hiss and curl. And so, lately, I have started doing things that use my other senses.

It has happened organically. Researching intuition, I found myself getting attracted to images and pictures. They felt immediate and truer than words. Then, I chanced upon adult coloring books, and I let myself buy one. It’s a book on coloring Mandalas by Jim Gogarty. Mandalas are circular designs that signify the wholeness of being, and that symbolism as well as the pictures appealed to me.

So, I set out to color, intuitively picking out whatever color appealed to me and filling it in. I let my feelings guide me, and it turned out to be a surprisingly heart-nourishing activity. My mind (like the mind of many HSPs, I suspect) often hooks on to a thought and then chases it the way a dog goes after a bone. This rumination — obsessive thinking about something even though it doesn’t help at all — is a part of my adaptation. It’s the way it has been for me for a long-time.

What was surprising was that as soon as I started coloring, the rush of thoughts stopped. It wasn’t so much that my mind was “empty” but that there was a presence, a fullness that was engaged with what I was doing right then. I was in the flow.

I think that our minds need something to hook onto, something to grasp at. When we are too much with our thoughts, as sometimes sensitive people are prone to being, we are swept up in their current.

Consciously choosing a hook for our attention gives shape to the energies that we sometimes get overloaded with. Instead of becoming self-defeating, this nervous energy can now have a channel to flow into.

It can as easily be creative as it has sometimes been destructive in the past, when we didn’t know what to do with it.

Of course, coloring is just an example. I picked it up because I love colors and pictures. You might love some other flow-state activity. Here, in the Silicon Valley, I know many engineers who love to play with Legos. The same part of them that drives their adult work — the pull to build something, connect parts to build a bigger system — also fuels their adult play.

Play is energy-giving, regenerative. Without it, where would our work be?

For me, coloring has led to drawing mandalas by hand and trying watercolor painting. It’s helping me fill up my sensory well, a place to draw on for my writing. It’s helping me round out the rough edges that develop inside me when I am too much in my mind.

And it shows me, in a real way, that I can give myself what I need. That’s something we need to learn as sensitive people. We sometimes feel caught in one-sided friendships or relationships where we find that we are giving too much of ourselves away and not receiving what we need.

Maybe, one way to receive is by re-directing some of our energy to what we love and find nourishment in the presence that creativity brings.

But we can’t even choose to do this if we are stuck wanting to appear a certain way. When we can let go of our limited notions of what we permit ourselves to do, we find that we have enough inner resources that help renew and invigorate us.

The Mind Blocks Creativity

The intellect can be a great danger to creativity: Many of us have a skewed relationship with our creativity. We value thinking and the intellect over stepping into discovery and experimentation. Something that I read recently by the wonderful writer Ray Bradbury gives us a new way of thinking about experiencing and thinking.

Bradbury tells us that “thinking is to be a corrective in our life — it’s not supposed to be a center of our life.” That’s a radical statement for someone like me, someone who over-thinks a lot.

If thinking is not the center, what is?

Bradbury says: “Living is supposed to be the center of our life, being is supposed to be the center — with correctives around, which hold us like the skin holds our blood and flesh in. But our skin is not a way of life — the way of living is the blood pumping through our veins, the ability to sense and to feel and to know. And the intellect doesn’t help you very much there — you should get on with the business of living.”

We should get on with the business of living. That’s a pointer for people like me who have been seared at some point and now carry their mistrust into everything that happens. Thinking becomes our way to try and control things, even before they happen.

But as Bradbury tells us, thinking is not living. If we have made it our primary mode of moving, then we are deadening our lives.

We are here to experience things, discover things, make things.

Of course, we need to think as well. But the thinking we need is not a defense mechanism, but a membrane that holds all of our experiences together. Then, we don’t use it to rationalize or talk ourselves out of doing things. We use it to assess our direction and course correct, when needed.

As I try to put this into action, I find that I am getting excited about things again. I am stepping out of the limits that I had drawn for myself. I am sighing with relief as I let myself wander and figure out things.

I am trying things on for size.

Nothing needs to be perfect. Nothing needs to turn out right. I am discovering and making things up as I go along.

This way feels more fluid, and I want to expand on it and continue doing it.

I want to feel the freedom of not being weighed down by my own perfect standards or those of others. I want the freedom to do more, be more, discover more. I want to find out what all shapes I can take and how I can stop stifling my own being.

And what about you?

What would stepping away from the need to do things perfectly do in your life? Would it help you become lighter and more joyous? Would it help you attempt something your heart is yearning to do? Would it help you pull in more things that make life worth living?

I hope you find yourself taking your next imperfect step and finding that that too can be part of your wonderful, glorious dance.

Let The Creative Process Help You To Achieve Your Goals

Do you get stuck when trying to move forward?

Are you creating but still find that you can flounder or use your momentum?

Do you wish you could find an easier way to make the life that you seek?

Why It Helps To Embrace The Creative Process

Creating can be a difficult and confounding process. We often take one step forward and another back.

It can be hard to understand why that is. So we look into our childhoods, our belief systems and all sorts of corners of our psyche to figure our what is getting in our way.

According to Robert Fritz, author of The Path Of Least Resistance and Creating in addition to many other books, The problem is not in our psyches it is in the structural system that dominates our lives.

What Is The Creative Process?

Many of us have mistaken ideas about the creative process.

The creative process is NOT about coming up with ideas.

The creative process is NOT about concepts.

The creative process is NOT about finding yourself.

The creative process is NOT a form of personal salvation.

The creative process IS a structure that lets you create.

The creative process IS a way to remove irrelevant considerations from your creating – whatever your creating is about.

The creative process IS a way to move from where you are now to your creative goal.

What Is Irrelevant To Creating?

In creating the only thing that matters is what you want to create, and how you are going to get from where you are not to what you are trying to create.

It does not matter what I think or what you family and friends think.

It does not matter what your religion or political affiliation is.

It does not matter what the weather is, who likes you or does not.

It does not mater is you have a dog, cat or a bird.

It does not matter if you had a bad childhood.

It does not matter if you like yourself.

How To Make The Creative Process Work For You

According to Robert Fritz, the process of creating is very simple:

  • identify where you want to go, what you want to achieve
  • identify where you are
  • determine how to get there
  • do it.

Once you know what you want and where you are now, you can develop the step you need to take. There is no one to consult, and no approval to get.

It is that simple.

We overcomplicate it with a lot of extraneous considerations which are really irrelevant.

So, for example, you want to become super healthy.

First, you need to assess where you are and then create a series of steps to achieve your objective. It may include losing weight, drinking more and healthier water, dealing with stress issues, figuring our a lifestyle plan that will support your health, etc.

The big benefit of this approach is that taking one step supports the rest of the steps. So going through the process, each step moves forward and feeds into the next. Gone is the oscillating pattern of one step forward and one step back.

By having a straightforward creative process, you now have a structure that supports your moving forward.

That’s all you need to creative whatever you want.

Sound too simple?

Try it. See if it works for you.

I am using it, and although it takes getting used to, it does work.

The Value Of Mistakes

Mistakes are a no-no, even a taboo.

That is unfortunate because they are very important and necessary.

Without errors, you cannot be in touch with and claim your own power.

Embracing failure is important if you want to come into your own as an HSP.

The Hidden Benefit Of Mistakes

According to Robert Fritz, author of the Path of Least Resistance and Creating, the creative process can be divided into three large phases:

  1. the idea or germination
  2. the development of the idea from concept to completion
  3. releasing the result

Although we can make mistakes at any time and step of the process, errors are most valuable when we are in the development phase.

Failure are an important part of the trial and error process that lets us engage with an idea and reality.

They tell us when something is not working so that we can consider what to change.

It is through failure not only that we learn, but also that we develop mastery over a subject.

Errors are our path to our power and effectiveness in the world.

How Mistakes Can Seem Like A Bad Idea

Mistakes can seem like a bad idea, particularly to highly sensitive people.

We do not like the negative feedback and we feel terrible when we have done harm to others.

Our natural gifts can make it difficult for us to want to take any chances. Since we are often misperceived and misunderstood and our insights dismissed, it can seem as if we are taking big risks whenever we move forward.

The Baggage Of Mistakes

There are many misconceptions about mistakes that can create problems for us:

  • mistakes are a matter of life and death. For early humans, mistakes may indeed have been a matter of life and death. However, those days are long gone and we can lighten up about mistakes. Most mistakes may create some inconvenience and even some loss but are rarely life threatening.
  • mistakes are a sign of stupidity. Mistakes have been equated with lower intelligence as far back as I can remember. However, mistakes are inevitable when we are venturing to create something new or learn a new skill.
  • mistakes are a sign of weakness. Making mistakes can actually be a sign of strength since it takes courage to be willing to learn something new.
  • mistakes are a sign of bad character. What an old saw this is! Character assassination is a favorite method of attacking people who take risks. Mistakes are not a sign of bad character. They are a sign of a learning process under way.
  • mistakes are a sign we do not care. Making mistakes, if we are trying to learn can be a sign of great caring. Sticking your neck out to learn takes courage which is usually a sign of caring.

Embracing Intelligent Risk Taking

The easiest way to move forward in life, embrace your personal growth and learn is to embrace intelligent risk taking.

Not all risk taking is equal. You can make unnecessary errors by taking on to much at once, always flying by the seat of your pants,  flying blind without conducting any research and generally making a mess.

Or you can take a wiser approach.

A Process For Intelligent Risk Taking

In order to take intelligent risks, you have to have in your mind a process that can make risk taking an important and valuable part of what you are doing. You need to create a process that you have confidence in.

Here is one that is a start:

  1. identify what you want to do.
  2. break it down into steps. This prevents you from getting in over your head and makes it easier to identify where you want to make corrections and why.
  3. research what is needed to do what you want to do. Understanding the skills, tools and other requirements will make it easier for you to take an intelligent risk.
  4. obtain whatever resources you need. D not skimp on time, materials, education or any other resource you need.
  5. pause to evaluate your progress frequently. It will help you avoid the most egregious and costly errors.
  6. once you are comfortable with your preparation, engage wholeheartedly in accomplishing what you want.

Often the difference between effective and ineffective risk taking is a matter of preparation.

Benefiting From Taking Risks

Highly sensitive people are extremely conscientious and caring people. Often the result, however, is that HSPs back away from taking risks when they d not have to.

Taking intelligent risks and using their conscientiousness and caring to embrace intelligent risk-taking can make a big difference not only in being successful but also enjoying growing a learning.

HSPs have much to offer, so when we take risks, everyone often benefits.

It is worth sticking our toes in the water. We may find that it is warm and inviting.

Humility And Creativity

Creativity and creative people are often revered especially in the arts.

Unfortunately, we often put creative people on pedestals when creativity is natural to all of us.

If we realize how important humility is to the creative process we might find that being creative is something that is available to all of us.

How Creativity And Humility Are Related

The minute you step into your creativity you are also stepping into your humility – which is actually quite wonderful when you think about it.

Creativity is a very different way of living because it is a different way of engaging with life.  It’s a process which includes

  • trial and error
  • curiosity about what we do not understand
  • openness to the many ways life can manifest.

Creativity is a natural part of us that is activated by our curiosity and sense of wonder. When we wonder, we become open to that which we do not know.

Humility has an important place in our creativity because it helps us be receptive to new information and ideas. Humility helps us wonder about how something might be different.

Creativity works best when we are open to options – not when we have the door of possibility closed. We can be more effective when we do not operate from simple, fixed answers or demands for “output” or productivity. The creative process has a life and pace of its own. We do better when we are humble enough to be in tune with its natural pace.

Creativity is evolutional and in sync with the constant evolution of people and the universe. It is about the learning and growing. When we recognize that, we can see that creativity requires that we are relaxed about it. We are going to make mistakes because we are supposed to.

The Humble Baby Steps Of Creativity

When we are in our creativity we participate in the incremental nature of life moving forward in baby steps. Those baby steps which we take with the rest of the human race become our connection with others as well as our past. The universe and the human race is a giant work in progress.

Once we realize that all we have to do is become a part of that progress, we are then free to give our best to what we do without concern for outcomes. When we become one with the ongoing invention of the universe we again move into our humility because we are not doing it alone, we have had the help of centuries of human effort and an intelligent universe.

The Challenge To Let Go Of Outcomes

One of our difficulties in letting go of outcomes is that we live in a world that measures us. We are measured on outcomes and often only outcomes.  As a result, our ability to survive can be dependent on those measurements and we can be reluctant to let go of them. To simply let go and humbly give our all to whatever is in front of us – with baby steps, one at a time – can seem dangerous.

Outcome-based measurements are measurements of “productivity” or output. They are not really measurements of our creativity. So if we are creative we can be at odds with our culture if we pursue creative goals rather than quantifiable output goals. It may seem like splitting hairs, but when you are “producing” you are a cog in a wheel. When you are creating you are engaged differently, collaborating as an equal with the universe around you. Creativity engages all of our skills and abilities from both an equal and a humble place. It is a magnificent arrangement!

When you align with the creative universe you are a friend to our ongoing evolution which means to all people and creatures.  With the intention of highest possible well-being for all – a humble intention – you are freer to give your all to your work and let go of outcomes.

The creative way is a humble way and a generous way. It may be hard to do but it is worth embracing since it really is the way of the universe and the way to our greatest fulfillment.

Are Passion And Creativity The Same Thing?

Do you think passion is important?

Do you think that creativity requires passion?

These are important questions because many people think that creativity requires passion and that without passion, creativity is impossible.

Does Passion Help Creativity

Many people think that passion is necessary for creativity to occur. However, we need to reconsider this idea.

Say you bump into an animal that you have never seen before. In your mind you start to invent stories about what kind of animal you are seeing and why you have not seen it before. These stories are creations of your mind. Did you need passion to create them?

Creating, then, is a natural to us as breathing since we are always engaging with and trying to make sense of the world around us.

Is Passion The Same As Motivation?

When you are motivated, does it come from passion?

When you are hungry your motivation to eat comes from necessity. When you treat someone else well, your motivation can come from love, respect, or if you are dealing with a bully from self preservation.

So motivation can be all over the map. If you tie your creativity to your motivation, you will have trouble creating since your motivation will change and fluctuate.

What Is Passion Anyway!

The common definition of passion is that it is most often described as a powerful feeling.

The Free Dictionary‘s definition of passion describes 4 basic categories for passion:

  1. a powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger.
  2. ardent love, strong sexual desire; lust, the object of such love or desire.
  3. boundless enthusiasm… the object of such enthusiasm.
  4. an abandoned display of emotion, especially of anger

I think that we recognize that passion can be a powerful emotion, but there are many powerful emotions. What distinguishes passion is enthusiasm. When we have passion, we feel an enthusiasm for what we are passionate about.

This is another interesting definition of passion from Mapmaker:

Passion is the energy that comes from bringing more of YOU into what you do.

Simply put, it’s being who you are and doing what comes naturally. When what you do is in alignment with who you are, you get energy from doing it. It’s like water flowing along its natural riverbed. It actually gains energy from the path it’s taking (compare that to what most people experience in their work, which is more like trying to force it up and over a mountain).

So passion comes from a sense of connection between ourselves and what we are doing. Passion happens because there is some relationship between us and the work. In fact you could say that passion occurs because the work is us.

Passion And Creativity Are Not The Same

Creativity is not passion. It is a skill.

Passion comes from us. Our enthusiasm for something says something about who we are and what we have to give the world.

Passion is about something that attracts us; creating is about bringing something into existence.

Passion is a love of chocolate, creating is make an unusual chocolate cake.

Passion is a love of roses, creating is making a new hybrid tea rose.

Passion is a love of color, creating is making your own painting.

You Need Both

Passion tells you something about yourself. Creating is something you do as a result of your passion.

I personally think you need both.

It is a good idea to know yourself and where your enthusiasms lie. It is also a good idea to master the self discipline necessary to create something.

Creativity and passion can reinforce and accentuate each other. When they do you harness the best of yourself and your skills. That means you can offer some serious contribution to the world, which is a wonderful way to live.

How Living In The Question Creates Freedom

 

There has to be a better answer.

At least that is what I keep telling myself.

For the longest time I have asked myself why there is so much misery in the world and what can be done to change it. Much of our misery seems to revolve around getting and having or not getting and not having. In other words, it is comes from our perception of deprivation.

We have had many answers to deprivation in our human history, but often they fall into one of three categories:

  1. do without and learn to like it
  2. indulge yourself
  3. consume moderately which is a little of everything, no extremes of self denial or self indulgence.

I am not pointing in a spiritual direction with this post. I am raising practical considerations regarding material existence, how to live our lives and how to live with each other.

I have often thought that there is a problem with being focused on answers. Too frequently we reach for them quickly without the process of discovery that can lead to great problem solving. Our answers often take on a life of their own as an approach to life, and so can do us more harm than good.

I don’t think we get off so easy as to have a fixed answer to life challenges for a number of important reasons:

  • Answers adhered to religiously do more harm than good.  They cause us to respond to a situation as a threat to our answer. Blind loyalty to answers reduces cooperation by closing off the intelligence and experience of others.  Whenever I am around someone who operates from their answers, I can feel that I have been shut out which is a very uncomfortable feeling.
  • Answers expect a result.  They have no room for changes of circumstance, people or conditions.  If you were accustomed to living in a tent in the Sahara desert, would you expect that same tent to work equally well in Antarctica?
  • Answers demand a continuity of experience. Have you ever met someone that acted deprived no matter what they had?  That person is demanding a certain experience at all times and acting deprived when it does not happen.

I say, “Ditch the answers!” Answers should be the organic result of asking questions and considering all kinds of information.  They should not be a foregone conclusion. So ditch the answers and let some surprise into your life and you may find that life works better as a result.

Just a hunch.

You Can’t Escape The Wild And Why You Don’t Want To

We have been conditioned to think that the wild of nature is a dangerous place.

Perhaps in some ways it is.

However, the wild is also a fantastic place.

The wild is where the magic happens.

There Is No Certainty

Certainty does not exist. We create it in our minds but it is our creation.

We nurture certainty, demand stability and in the end are usually sorely disappointed.

All of our attempts to secure our lives usually do not work.

Many sages have said as much over the centuries, but that does not prevent us from trying.

Why Stability Is A Poor Goal

Stability and order have been a desire and goal of humans for thousands of years.

We have been seeking “shangri-la” like conditions of security from our earliest beginnings.

When you think of the effort and resources put into these desires you would think that we would have been successful by  now.

The fact that we are not is worth considering and asking why?

Living For The End

When we seek stability and order we are living from a number of ideas that may not be helpful:

  • we treat stability and order as ends to be achieved as if they are reasonable and realistic goals.
  • we assume that stability is a more desirable goal than whatever alternative we envisage.
  • we assume that stability and order are achievable.
  • we assume that our will, for stability and order, is more important and greater a factor than anything else.
  • we assume that natural processes are our enemy and must be controlled.

Order and stability, the way we humans have constructed them, are contrary to natural processes. The reality is that nature and natural processes do not care about our desire for order. It is our job to respect them, not their job to cater to our demands.

An excellent example of this is in an article recently on climate change where the author made the point that climate change is about physics. Physics is physics and does not answer to our demands or assumptions.

Nature has always provided us with clues on how to live. To really live in harmony with our world we have to give up the desire for order and the domination of nature and others.

Why?

Because life is a dynamic process. It is not linear, it is not logical, it is a never ending series of ever changing dynamics.

So far we have be unable to accept reality.

Why Order Is Destructive

Order makes demands on our resources and time. It also requires a lot of maintenance.

Anytime we spend our time supporting a structure that is out of touch with reality, we essentially become weaker. We support systems that consume us rather than protect us.

But order can be systematized and nature cannot. As much as we try to dominate it, we are only kidding ourselves.

By walling ourselves off we loss our strength and our resilience.

Unfortunately there is an additional cost to our demand for order and stability: we lose ourselves.

Order And The Loss Of Self

Systematized cultures can be very complex. They can seem very demanding as a result and often are.

However, the demands are the kinds of needs that spring from the system itself, which is often antithetical to nature. In other words, they are not demands that spring for an dynamic living organism. They are demands that spring for a static structure.

The result is that our attention gets directed to noticing “something wrong” or out-of-place. We no longer focus on understanding and working with natural processes. Our energy is directed to maintaining a fixed system that attempts to control any surprises and changes.

Our attention gets corrupted and so we lose our resilience and other  adaptive skills that derive from living in tune with the dynamics of nature.

We lose our connection with that which supports our life and begin to treat it like an enemy.

Losing the wild makes us mechanical, fearful, negative, and self-protective rather than creative.

We hate our vulnerability so much that we end up lsing what is precious about ourselves.

It is no wonder that we are often feel that something is missing.

The Gift Of The Wild

The wild of nature offers us many gifts.

It teaches us to bend with changes in weather, learn to find the good in different circumstances, when to give and when not to.

The wild is intelligence in action – which is what we are also.

The wild is necessary for our development, our strength and resilience.

I think it is precious and worth becoming acquainted with, cherishing and loving, in ourselves and the natural world around us.

It takes a dynamic world to create a strong person. In a way you could say that the dynamics of the wild world of nature reflects our own needs for development.

So instead of seeing it as an enemy, we could see it as a gift and be grateful.

 

How The Creative Process Helps Highly Sensitive People

Many people think the creative process is some sort of magical inspirational event.

Actually the creative process is a wonderful process of engagement.

It can be enormously helpful for sensitives who want more control over their lives.

What Is The Creative Process?

The creative process is simply a process that lets us create something that did not exist before we created it.

If you research the creative process you will find many different answers about what the creative process is and how many steps there are in creating.

Most people believe that the creative process starts with an idea.

Not so fast, according to creativity expert, Robert Fritz, who has written The Path Of Least Resistance and Creating Your Own Life.

Mr. Fritz, a composer and film maker, consults with many organizations on the creative process.

He identifies the start of the creative process as the time when you decide on something that you want to create. You might have an idea for world peace, for instance, but that does not neessarily mean that you want to create world peace.

Once you know what you want, then you have to discover your current situation before you can begin to develop the steps you need to bring what you want into being. If you want to write a symphony and do not know what the scale is, then you have to educate yourself before you can begin. Your skills are an important factor in what you want to create.

So many people who want to create something become bogged down and give up. Often it is because they do not fully engage with their desire and where they are in order to determine how to proceed. Then they bump into limitations that deter them and give up. It is better to embrace the reality of a learning curve and resource limitations so that you can deal with them effectively.

The Creative Process Can Keep You Grounded

When you know what you want to do and where you are at the current moment, then you are always in touch with reality, which gives you more control over your life.

It not only helps you to focus on your next steps but also keeps you out of pie in the sky daydreaming that gets you nowhere and can even cause you to become depressed.

The creative process is a great tool to keep you moving forward.

It keeps you focused on where you are and the next step you need to take. one of the beauties of it is that you do not need anyone else’s approval or permission to create whatever you want.

The Special Advantage Of The Creative Process For HSPs

Highly sensitive people often have difficulty maintaining control over their own lives, because they have different priorities from non-HSPs which means that they often have little say over work and social agendas because highly sensitive people are usually outnumbered. Therefore in work and social situations we often get preempted which is very uncomfortable.

However, HSPs are often creative. In embracing the creative process we can start to regain control over our agenda.

The creative process is about setting your own agenda and following it through to completion. When you take back your life using the creative process you start to create freedom for yourself not only by choosing what you want but by becoming so in tune with what is needed to make your goals happen that you start to use that skill in all areas of your life.

You acquire an understanding of what is necessary and what is possible, that no one can take away from you. It helps you in managing not only your time but also your boundaries.

The Creative Process Creates Empowerment

Rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands dirty to make something happen is a wonderful way to grow, learn and get control over your own life. Making something happen provides you with knowledge based on experience. It enables you to notice when the demands and expectations of others are inappropriate. It puts you in charge of what is possible and makes it easier not to be subject to the whims of others.

HSPs have too often found it difficult to protect their boundaries and well-being because their values and priorities are different. However, without enough experience and knowledge, HSPs have no way of defending themselves.

The creative process provides highly sensitive people with a way to their own authority so that they do not have to be subject to the authority of others as much.

It is therefore a wonderful way for the highly sensitive to create a meaningful and healthy life for themselves.

Sounds good, doesn’t it?