The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.

Stephen Covey

June Week 1: Control And Control Issues


Overview And Objectives

Control is a difficult word. We know we need some. We know that we will experience it from others. We know that it shows up in all sorts of ways including rigidity and perfectionism. We also know that control is necessary for us to complete work, to focus, and to set priorities.

Perfectionism is the face of control for many of us. It is only a set of ideals. No one ever reaches perfection. Insisting on it as an entitlement is a form of control. We need to understand what is healthy control and what is unhealthy control.

This week we explore control - the positive and the negative sides of it because one is a condition for personal growth and development and the other is not.

Taking Control Of Control

Control comes in many forms and that is why it is so difficult to deal with. In the video, we will explore how to take control of control.

“Freedom is the only worthy goal in life. It is won by disregarding things that lie beyond our control.” 


Control And Sensitive People

Different perspectives about control when you are sensitive.

How To Deal With A Control Freak

Great ideas from Dr. Judith Orloff.

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Why HSPs Have Trouble With Controlling People

This article discusses sensitivity and the challenge of getting along with controlling people.

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Bossy People Have Control Issues

Insights from a coach for sensitive people.

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Connecting The Dots

Questions, ideas, and insights to stimulate your thinking and to help integrate this week's information into your life.

Insight 1

Controlling people have preconceived ideas about what "should" be happening.

Insight 2

Self-control is useful for staying with a question or issue to understand it better.

Insight 3

Empaths have to be careful that they do not absorb and take on the fears of controlling people.

This Month's Courses

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